Last year, rather than coming up with a list of new year’s resolutions–that I would’ve inevitably broken–I decided to have a theme for the year instead. I chose to work on being “Brave”.
With the end of January quickly approaching, I asked Tav (the partner in crime), what he thought I should work on this year. Without pausing to think, he answered, “Patience.” I smirked.
Patience, is a virtue I just cannot uphold. This is something I always say while complaining about how slowly I’m progressing in my life goals. I’m sure many of you can resonate. I have been in and out of a quarter-life crisis, and I am sick and tired of being told (by friends and myself) that I just need to be patient… that opportunities will come soon enough.
A quick google search of the word patience comes up with:
The capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.
Let’s use my current circumstances as an example:
I live in a city (or is it a hamlet? an urban service area?) that doesn’t seem to have many opportunities for the field that I have been working on. I sent emails and resumes; I made calls and met with people, in hopes that I can forge my way into the start of my career but still not much luck. Needless to say, my patience, for the past couple of years had been running dry.
Now using the definition of patience:
Is the solution to building my career really to just accept and tolerate the lack of opportunities in my city, without getting angry or upset?
I don’t know about anyone else, but I just cannot accept that. This is why it annoys me when I am given the advise: Just be patient. Is waiting and sitting around until an opportunity arises really the way to go? If patience is as passive as it’s definition then I would rather be the more impatient person in the world! Call me insane (maybe even insufferable) but I’d really like to active role in reaching my goals.
Patience is not passive; on the contrary, it is active; it is concentrated strength. -Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton
Patience — the Persistent Kind
The kind of patience that I can agree with is one that does not simply accept or tolerate. Rather, it persists despite obstacles, delay, trouble or suffering without getting angry or upset. It does not come with a feeling of helplessness while an opportunity has not yet presented itself. Instead, it keeps on working on the circumstances that are within my control until the right time comes.